Imposter Syndrome While Wedding Planning

 Wedding planning is supposed to be a time of celebration and excitement, but for many brides and grooms, it can also be a time of anxiety and self-doubt. If you're struggling with feelings of imposter syndrome during your engagement, you're not alone.

Imposter syndrome is the persistent feeling that you're not good enough, despite evidence to the contrary. It can make you feel like a fraud, like you're pretending to be something you're not. And when it comes to wedding planning, imposter syndrome can rear its ugly head in a number of ways.

For example, you might feel like you don't deserve to have a big, beautiful wedding, especially if you come from humble beginnings or if your budget is tight. Or you might feel like you're not creative enough to plan a unique and memorable event, or that you're not stylish enough to choose the right dress, decor, or color scheme.

Whatever the cause, imposter syndrome can take a toll on your mental health and your enjoyment of your engagement. But the good news is that there are strategies you can use to manage imposter syndrome and feel more confident and empowered as you plan your wedding.

Focus on your strengths and accomplishments. Make a list of all the things you're good at and all the things you've achieved in your life so far, and remind yourself that you're capable and competent. Another strategy is to surround yourself with supportive people who believe in you and your ability to plan an amazing wedding. Lean on your friends, family, and wedding vendors for encouragement and guidance.

It's also important to remember that your wedding doesn't have to be perfect. There's no such thing as a perfect wedding, and the most memorable weddings are often the ones that are unique, personal, and reflective of the couple's personalities and values. So don't compare your wedding to anyone else's, and don't put pressure on yourself to live up to anyone else's expectations.

If you're struggling with imposter syndrome as you plan your wedding, know that you're not alone. It's normal to feel anxious and self-doubting during this time, but there are strategies you can use to manage these feelings and feel more confident and empowered. Remember to focus on your strengths and accomplishments, surround yourself with supportive people, and embrace the imperfections and uniqueness of your wedding. With these tools in your toolbox, you can overcome imposter syndrome and enjoy your engagement to the fullest.

How To Handle One-Sided Friendships

 One-sided friendships can be challenging and unfulfilling for the person who feels like they are doing all the work to maintain the relationship.  It can be frustrating and hurtful when friends only contact you when they need something from you. While it's important to be there for your friends when they need you, it's also important to have balanced and mutually supportive relationships.

If you're feeling used by your friends, it may be helpful to have an honest conversation with them about how you feel. Let them know that you value your friendship, but that you feel like you're only being contacted when they need something. It's possible that they're not aware of how their behavior is affecting you.

It's also important to set boundaries and communicate your own needs. Let your friends know what you need from them in order to feel valued and supported in the friendship. If your friends are unwilling or unable to respect your boundaries and needs, it may be time to reassess the relationship and whether it's worth maintaining.

   It can be frustrating and disheartening when one person is putting in all the effort while the other seems disinterested or takes the friendship for granted. However, it's important to remember that people have different personalities, priorities, and communication styles, and some individuals may not be as expressive or proactive in maintaining friendships as others. If you feel like you're in a one-sided friendship, it's important to communicate your feelings and needs to your friend. They may not even realize that they are not putting in as much effort as you are. If they are receptive and willing to work on the friendship, it's worth trying to improve the dynamic. However, if they are not responsive or continue to take the friendship for granted, it may be time to reevaluate whether this friendship is worth investing in. 

Remember that you deserve to be in healthy, fulfilling friendships where your needs are respected and your friendship is valued for more than just what you can do for others.

xoxo

Brittany Morgan

How To Navigate Questions After Getting Engaged

 

Getting engaged is an exciting time, but it can also come with a lot of questions and attention from family and friends. Here are some tips for handling the many questions: 

1. Talk with your partner: First and foremost, communicate with your partner about how you want to handle questions and attention from others. Determine what you want to share with friends and family and what you would like to keep private. 

2. Have a plan: Think about potential questions you may receive and how you want to answer them. Having a plan in place can help you feel more prepared and confident when answering questions. 

3. Be selective with who you share with: You are not obligated to tell everyone about your engagement. It's okay to be selective with who you share the news with and when. 

4. Set boundaries: You may receive unwanted or intrusive questions or comments from others. It's important to set boundaries and let them know if their questions or comments are making you uncomfortable.

 5. Enjoy the moment: Don't let the many questions and attention take away from the joy of being engaged. Take time to celebrate with your partner and enjoy this special time in your relationship

xoxo

Brittany Morgan